Rob and Kristen - When A Woman Loves Her Man...

Spent a glorious weekend with 'my man' on our wedding anniversary, and now i am back - full throttle!! 

And you know what that means...don't you?

Here we are - face to face...

I did a post last week, where i spoke about the key signs of when a man loves a woman. Of course, i brought Rob Pattinson into it. This is after all, a blog dedicated to all things Rob and Kristen respectively. Yes it's not everyone's cup of tea, but then not everyone has to read it. Especially those that feel that Kristen is being 'used' by Rob and what a 'horrible boyfriend he is to Kristen, because he just up and left her!' That he only spent '10 days in London, that's not exactly a glowing relationship now is it?'

Happiness when together...

Now i can throw out all kinds of evidence to support, that Kristen Stewart is just as deeply in love and deeply adores Rob - much to the chagrin of the haters, who believe they are nothing but a PR showmance, or they are deeply unhappy. Let's face it, why would Rob want to spend time with someone who never smiles and always looks ungrateful and sullen (yeah, because that's the only excuse they can come up with)

When a woman knows she is in love - it shows everywhere, because she literally glows with the feeling of being in love and with the security that someone actually cares about her. The same can be said about a man and one man in particular just 'glows' with happiness whenever he is around the woman who loves him. Now some will say Kristen doesn't care about Rob as much as he does. That she is very fickle when it comes to both expressing and showing her love towards him, and i would have to vehemently disagree. Part of the reason for the finger of suspicion, lies in the twisted tangled situation surrounding their relationship and where it all began. Too many haters seem to cling to the fact that Kristen was dating another actor during the time she filmed 'Twilight' alongside Rob, and that because of this - when Rob and Kristen were 'rumoured' to be dating while filming 'New Moon' the air of suspicion still hung over them. With haters claiming that it was nothing but a hook up.

Is this the look of love?

Now i am not going to go into the ins and outs of previous relationships and to be frankly honest, 'NO ONE' knows for definite what did or did not go on at the beginning, during and at the end of 'Twilight' - except Rob and Kristen and one other - Michael Angarano. And since neither involved have spoken about it, i don't personally see why i should. My interest lies with the present, not the past and as the director of Twilight has so fondly hinted 'their chemistry was off the charts' Interesting choice of words; the only reason 'chemistry' (chemical reaction - physical interest) would be off the charts as it where, would be if there was genuine interest on 'both sides' the level of sexual interest would have been equal between them. That certain spark that can be both physical and emotional. Pupils dilate, breathing changes and physical responses, all prove that two people are 'physically attracted to one and other.'

Flirtation is all in the eyes...

Physically attracted; Kristen was just 17 when she started working on Twilight - so essentially she was the exact same age as her character Bella Swan when she fell head over heels in love with Edward Cullen - much older man (in terms of vampire years) For Kristen she was very naive about love and had never 'experienced' the depth of love that her character Bella has for Edward (interesting don't you think?)

"When i looked in Rob's eyes i could look into his heart and he did the same" - Kristen talking about the first time she and Rob auditioned for the role of Edward Cullen.

Kristen was very direct when she spoke about the very first time she met Rob at Catherine Hardwicke's home and how he looked so afraid and insecure when he first walked in to the audition. BUT what she did notice was his seriousness in trying to play the character, not as a god like man like Stephenie Meyer had described the character in the book, but a man who was afraid of the woman. A woman that held the upper hand, she was the strong one and he was the weaker of the two. 

How when he looked at Kristen, really looked at her. Wanting her to feel both his fear and his insecurities (any of Rob's early interviews in various magazines during Twilight promotion, hold the same thread of discussion.) Rob's playfulness and lack of filter when it comes to speaking his mind, would have directly impressed Kristen. Being a veteran in the industry, she has been able to filter out those that have their egos attached to them like a second skin - Rob was never like that. Honesty has always been something Kristen has valued in anyone she has met. And for Rob, his lack in being able to lie has been another reason where he scored major points with his co-star and fast becoming 'close' personal friend.

“He can’t lie,” she says. “It makes things a little scary for him sometimes. But it’s my favourite thing about him.” Kristen on Rob's inability to lie, especially to her.

Her constant need to touch him...

One of the many signs when a woman is 'into you' with you, or indeed in love with you, is her constant need to touch or reassure you of their love. At the very beginning during the promotion of Twilight; Kristen was a little dubious of showing any kind of 'physical attention' towards Rob. But you have to understand that it's not because she disliked him or didn't want to touch him. Their relationship was under the spotlight, for want of a better word and Kristen knew that every touch, comment, look and exchange, will be scrutinised and analysed to death. Therefore, she was always conscious of where her hands where. How she held onto him and how she looked at him. 

Of course every now and again, she did slip up. But as shown above; during the promotion of New Moon - by this stage most of the media where under the impression they were actually together, and in light of being caught walking literally 'hand in hand' at a small airfield in France, i believe that Kristen touching Rob's knee under the table was in some way, her 'physical announcement' that this was the case. She became more empowered, more determined to own what was hers and in little dedicated moments such as this, is where she 'showed' the press and fans just how much she 'admired and respected Rob.'

"Rob is sexy, in a tortured artist way. This might be because he is British. He's tall, looks like he is thinking all the time and is incredibly funny."

Sexy, tortured and ALL mine!

Of course, there is no harm in the fact that Kristen finds Rob incredibly sexy. She has often been quoted about how he 'fits the profile of her perfect Edward' a comment that naysayers have used to complete and utter boredom 'see they are just acting out their characters lives, their relationship is not real it's just for PR.' Kristen finds him physically attractive and emotionally charming. Rob ticks all the boxes in that he has a love for music, writing and reading. Loves all things intellectually stimulating. Has a bad case of insomnia (something they both share) being British seems to be one of those traits that Kristen adores. Of course it stands to reason; British men tend to be more eloquent, more mannerly and more charming. Rob is all of those things, including being incredibly shy. Kristen adores his shyness; mainly because he has the annoying habit of being self-depreciating, something she is always in disagreement with. But in other ways, it shows the lack of ego. Too many celebrities tend to suffer 'delusions of grandeur' their egos get the better of them. 

A little bit of status, a pocket full of money and the need to have your name splashed everywhere - tends to seal the fate on many a relationship. Two egos do not go together, there will always be the battle of who comes out on top? Kristen and Rob are both ego-less; neither has the need to be better than the other one, neither has the interest in being in the public eye just to sell a couple of magazines. If anything; the Harpers Bizarre interview in 2009, was as 'public' as Kristen and Rob will ever be, in promoting an interview non-Twilight related with a photo shoot.

"I would never cheapen my relationships by talking about them. People say, ‘Just say who you’re dating. Then people will stop being so ravenous about it.’ It’s like, No they won’t! They’ll ask for specifics." - Kristen Stewart / May 06, 2010.

In early interviews Kristen did, she spoke openly about her admiration towards Rob. But there is a downside to speaking openly about someone you care about, and that is everyone will only want to know about your personal life and nothing else. As much as she would most likely shout from the rooftops how much Rob means to her, how much happier she is in her life - protecting what is hers has always been important. The very fact that during an interview she did in 2010;

"She takes her iPod back, pauses and bites her lip nervously. 'This is what i wanted to show you on here.' Kristen hands me her iPod and flashes me a picture. It's a familiar, deliciously handsome young man with an arm around Kristen and an arm around Jella, her cat. Without saying a word, she quickly shoves the device back into the glove compartment and turns up the volume before i can say anything." Kristen interview - Elle (UK)

In this one interview; Kristen demonstrates just how much she is proud of what she owns. She may not sing his praises as much as some fans want her to, but in the little things; the moments where she does let her guard down, where she does allow her personal emotions to come to the fore - Kristen proves how much she 'loves her man.'

Both have made sacrifices since they began dating; it's so easy to get caught up in your work, that you fail to acknowledge the other person's feelings. It's my belief that both Kristen and Rob move their working schedules around each other as much as humanly possible. It's so easy for fans to moan and bicker about the amount of time they spend together and spend apart. Picking out the negativity, instead of looking at their relationship as pretty much normal. Men and women in jobs that require them not always being at home, manage to juggle both their careers and home lives pretty successfully - so why pick apart Rob and Kristen's? It's simply because when they are not together then one or the other is playing away. Yep, pretty much the haters and naysayers, including some very insecure people in their own lives, believe that if Rob and Kristen 'are together' then they have to permanently be joined at the hip.

Separation can be painful...

I believe they learnt from their mistake or lack of one and other, during the summer of 2009; after spending several months working on New Moon and of course, getting closer. Fans felt the pain when they had to work separately; Rob in New York for 'Remember Me' and Kristen in Los Angeles for 'The Runaways.' It was during this time the hate level for Kristen increased ten fold, because half-wits claimed that Rob was partying it up behind Kristen's back with his recently acquired co-star from the movie. You only have to look at the images above; Kristen wearing sunglasses the morning of Rob's departure and Rob sitting on the steps outside a door 'off camera' to understand that both felt the absence of each other. Not to mention the rumours of Kristen being upset on set of 'The Runaways' and Rob rumoured to have visited Kristen more than once, because he 'missed her.' With equal rumours of Kristen flying to NYC, because she 'missed him' also. There are times they will not always be with each other - both working actors, sometimes sacrifices have to be made. But i feel that they 'make it work' because they both love and respect each other. Kristen has equally made time for Rob whenever she is not working more often than not. She has been seen visiting him on set and bringing food with her, to feed the starving man.

Ah, the way to a man's heart is through his stomach literally, and over the two and a half years it's believed they have been 'officially dating' Kristen has admitted to enjoy cooking. Making desserts seemed to be a firm favourite hobby of hers while shooting 'Eclipse' not to mention hosting a large barbecue at the home she 'shared with Rob' while he shot 'Water for Elephants' for her Twilight cast mates. As well as a few others (namely Rob's friends and possibly parents on both sides.)

Parental Approval...

Kristen and Rob are very family orientated. Kristen adores her parents and in turn, they are very protective of her. That being said, Rob was seen with both during 2009; working alongside her father at the Oscars - John Stewart, who was stage manager for Ryan Seacrest as he co-presented the 'Live At The Red Carpet - pre-Awards show. And later that year when Kristen's mum Jules Mann-Stewart came to pick her daughter up from the secluded romantic stay at Charlie's Bungalows in Los Angeles, Rob was snapped openly hugging her as he prepared to leave for two months. 

The bottom photo is apparently from Christmas 2009; yet another time when fans decide that 'too nosey' is just not nosey enough and posted this image on line. There are of course other countless times Kristen has been seen with both Rob's parents and indeed his sisters. But it's the very fact that the image of Kristen with Rob's parents, evokes 'family time' and it is that, which cements the relationship between Kristen and Rob, which also includes their families. Not only that, but the countless times evidence has proven visits with parents, holidaying during 'Thanksgiving and Christmas' as well as spending time with each other during their birthdays - Kristen proves how much Rob is a very important person in her life.

SO...how do we know a woman loves her man. How do we know Kristen loves Rob as much as he loves her?

"As soon as I stopped trying to control everything that came out of my mouth, and every picture that came out, I felt happier." - Kristen Stewart on the rumours that she is dating Robert Pattinson / March 09, 2010

The look of love from Kristen says it all...

Kristen has got better at accepting the media intrusion in her life. As much as it makes her nervous and makes her always have to second guess what she's about to say in any given interview - she has got better at understanding the interest surrounding her relationship with Rob. Mostly she has grown up and in growing up, she has been able to mature into who she is today. Add to that a close family unit and of course - the love, respect and complete adoration of a man she is in love with. 

Thankfully, the man Kristen is in love with does not have a wandering eye - much to the chagrin of many a female fan of his. She spends as much time with 'her man' as she possibly can. Of course, there will be times they can't always be together, but that doesn't stop them successfully making their relationship work. Complete trust is one quality that is needed in any relationship. For Rob and Kristen; despite the haters and salacious gossip mags trying and make you believe differently. Kristen is as deeply in love with Robert Pattinson as he is in love with her. Their relationship is equal parts trust and honesty; qualities some of the fans who follow and some who just hate for spiteful insecure reasons, need to take notice of.

It's all in the way Kristen looks at him; in her smile, in her actions, in her thoughts and in her words. THAT'S how you know a woman loves her man.

T.