My snarky self as decided to come out to play again, seeing as some hags from hell are rejoicing to the news and photos, that their 'hunk of a man and wet dream' Rob, has returned to Los Angeles. After spending nearly two weeks...in London with Kristen.
So...
How do you know the man you are with, is in love with you?
I'll break it down simply, so even the rob-sessed teens and cougars can understand it.
How do you know that he loves you? Well it's fairly simple. Men can be pretty fickle when they are tied down by emotions. Many can be very good at acting like they are in love, when really, they're only after one thing. They have good poker faces and will often tell you things you want to hear, because they know women are the emotional being and will often fall for the sweet words and kind gestures, as well as being attentive, when the only goal is to get you into bed.
BUT; more often than not, there are men out there, who are the complete opposite. Their grandiose displays of affection, are actually genuine and heartfelt.
Rob has often since he began filming Twilight back in 2008; shown in both spoken and body language, that he has a genuine emotional attachment to Kristen. He does not display 'he-man status' (a commonly used label to describe a man that has to prove he is 'in control' both with or without friends around him). He doesn't try and push false emotions on you to get what he wants, instead (like Rob) he is very tentative, more than likely very shy and insecure himself. Therefore, will less likely use your emotional status as woman to get what he wants. From the very beginning; Rob has made it known of his attraction (crush) of Kristen. He spoke about it more often than was deemed reasonable, during all the press and promotion of Twilight. He praised Kristen continuously and when cameras where not on them, showed kind and gentle gestures around Kristen (complete attention and enthusiasm) in hearing anything she had to say. Was around her for emotional support and built up a connection, a friendship with Kristen, that could only be described as their little 'bubble'
They share a unique bond that is not only built with a strong foundation, (friendship) but an unmistakable kinship, that some couples fail at having. Because they are too concerned with the physical aspect of the relationship and don't actually take time to get to know one and other. Rob has often been described as intellectually shy; which basically means he does have a very active and enthusiastic brain on his shoulders (commonly seen as a bit of a geek or a nerd) a thirst for reading and watching the kind of movies, that would normally bore the dullest of people. BUT at the same time, witty and sarcastic with a sense of confidence in that area of his life, which normally goes hand in hand with shyness. Lack of self esteem, lack of a 'filter' when it comes to the female form. His love life is always a speculation to the media; he comes across as not alike any hot blooded male who is working in a industry full of stunning women, yet he would be the one sitting in the corner very shy and insecure, while these women would hit on him. Hence...
When Kristen came onto the scene, when she made her first introduction to him (Catherine Hardwicke's decking at the back of her home, as read in her directors handbook) after he had recently watched the movie 'Into the Wild' where upon her character, was a very shy but free spirit - Rob was done. Done as in essence; she became the main focus for him winning the audition. She became the main focus while he shot the movie. She was the main focus when he spoke about the movie; the characters development and how he falls in love. And she remained the main focus when he spoke about the months leading after he shot the movie and how he still felt being in that bubble of 'this girl, this girl, this girl, is the only thing you need in your life, the only thing you need in your life, the only thing you need in your life.'
From that, other emotions develop. The man needs to know the woman is as much into the relationship, as he is. There is no sense in throwing all the emotional turmoil of being 'in love' if the woman lacks any kind of interest or spirit. Kristen is often described as a very 'deep and giving spiritual free girl' much like the character she played in 'Into the Wild.' Maybe that's what drew Rob to the movie? She is a deep thinker, passionately intellectual and a nurturer, as seen by the amount of compassion she devotes to the people she loves and the deep respect she has for the fans of the Twilight Saga. But she is also very passionate about her work, fiercely independent and impatient with herself more so than others. She has always been seen as a very shy, mostly misunderstood, because her mind works so quickly. Her view of the world is different and quirky and this can sometimes be used to her disadvantage.
Those that like to criticise her, use this against her, because they don't have the patience to actually get to know her. But Rob did, he found her fascinating; breathtakingly beautiful. Admired her for her strong acting ability and charisma, that is always so humble and gentle. It was mentioned by members of the Twilight cast, how 'Rob followed Kristen around like a little puppy and how he asked on more than one occasion, for Kristen to marry him.'
Yes the touchy subject that followed Rob and Kristen around in 2008; Rob asking Kristen multiple times to marry him. Of course at first, it was asked and the reaction was one of embarrassment, then denial, then denial on one side and admittance on the other. Then ask him, no ask her...followed by 'i ask every girl i meet to marry me, it's just something that i do.' Until finally Rob admitted that yes, he did. But he couldn't remember how many times he asked Kristen. So, when do you know a man is being truthful when he asks to marry you? Well, from Rob's point of view; He is very much in favour of long term commitments, no one night stands or hook ups for him, I'm afraid. Oh no, you see he blames or rather honours the fact that both his parents met when they were quiet you (his mother was 17 when she met his father and he 25) *look up any Rob biography from fan websites*
So he always liked the idea of meeting a woman who he wanted to settle down with. Someone with a feisty independent spirit, who knows what she wants out of life and isn't afraid to go after it. Intellectually minded and of course, someone who can just relax, be herself *Madame interview 2011* - no barbie starlets of high maintenance.
Commitment to Rob is very important, and of course, it doesn't hurt that the girl he has been seen with constantly, always in his company on his down time and when he is working, is a girl who has the same level of commitment. For Kristen is not the type of girl who gives her heart to just anyone, oh no. Considering their first Director has always even to this day, been very vocal about their first meeting, first audition, first kiss and first crushes.
Catherine Hardwicke has always been a firm advocate for the romance between her two co stars - giving it her unique stamp of approval and is rewarded with various people always asking about their 'sizzling chemistry.' Commitment means, they want to be with each other always; Holidays, set visits, birthdays and seasonal occasions - Rob and Kristen have sought privacy, by maintaining their relationship off camera. Away from photographers, away from stalking fans and away from the glaring media intrusion.
For them, their relationship is theirs and no one else's. They don't offer it up to the media to scrutinise, take apart, break apart, suggest and analyse. Instead, they have tried to keep it out of the spotlight, refusing to talk about it, sell it to anyone willing to pay for it. The time they spend together because of their busy working lives (in between working for the Twilight Saga) is very precious to them. They use that time to refrain from being spotted, because with the use of twitter and facebook - when found, they have mere seconds before they get bombarded by fans or photogs - interrupting their precious time. They have been devious enough to go out to places that are less conspicuous or private enough, that no one can just walk in from the street and harass them. Sometimes they work with a large crowd (friends dining out) that means, there is less chance of them being interrupted when they are having a meal. The same goes for holidays and birthdays; the less known place the go to, the less they will be bothered when they want some time alone.
There is no inflating ego between the two of them. With Rob; when he spends time with Kristen, it's because she is the centre of his world. His praise for her is always complimentary 'the greatest actress of her generation' his love and adoration for her, is always seen in his eyes and in his smiles. They compliment each other, because they both understand how hard the other one works. There is no fame seeking, only the love for their craft. There is no competitive nature, only the will to succeed in making a believable story. There is mutual respect, understanding, pride and honesty. With Kristen; she has admitted to having a built in bullshit detector. With Rob; he has the inability to not be able to lie. Together they are blunt about the celebrity status that they have had to hold onto together. They came into Twilight not knowing how big it was going to get, yet hung on tight and have so far, rode the wave together, keeping both of their feet firmly planted on the ground. Both natural born givers and believers of the strength within a family, is always important. Each have a solid relationship with their parents and this reflects on the type of people they have both grown into.
Communication they say, is the key to a long and happy relationship and that is the truth. It's essential in being able to talk to one and other all the time. Talk about the little things in life and the kind of things that creep up on you when you least expect it. Insecurities stem from a lack of communication between two people in love, and that then leads to more complications. Rob and Kristen; during the times they are apart, i have no doubt, communicate as much as possible. Too many fans fear that when the other half of the couple is away, they cut off all communication, which is complete nonsense. Email, text messaging even Skype, is the way most people who have to spent time apart because of work commitments, use to keep in touch and Rob and Kristen are no different. They are only away from each other due to their schedules, which tend to not have them too much apart if they can't help it. Certainly since 2010; Rob and Kristen seem to flow freely in being able to balance their professional life and private life without too much upset.
They are actors, they know this is part of what they do and they understand that there will be times when they won't be together. If there ever came a time when their professional life started encroaching on their private life, i believe one or other would rather walk away from their job (mainly Rob seems to imply this) or at the very least, refrain from all work and no play, than allow it to ruin their relationship.
In essence; despite the rumours, suggestions, blatant lies and false accusations - Rob is in love with Kristen and Kristen is in love with Rob. It doesn't matter how much or how little time they have been seen together, it's the fact they have been together, that's more important. If you are going to criticise a few days visiting one and other, as opposed to no days at all as a way of 'citing your belief they don't love each other or are not a couple' then your perception of the world is a very dark and dangerous place to be.
Or maybe it's the hate that keeps you lonely; projecting your hate onto a couple that have for over 2 years, made i work. Despite the crazy world they work in. Or maybe it's your obsession of another couple's relationship, that has stopped you finding one of your own, or ruined the one you had? Because you would rather objectify a male actor in something bordering on psychotic obsession, than find love yourself with a person, who would make you as happy as Kristen Stewart is.
The photos have been brought to you today - by Harpers Bazaar 2009 Special Winter Edition, and Comic Con 2011.
Live, Laugh, Love.
Rob Pattinson and Kristen Stewart, know how to do all three. So in answer to my question at the beginning of the post; 'How do you know that the man you are with, is in love with you?'
Simple; he is the type of person who would hang the moon and stars. Will talk to you any time, any moment and any day you choose. Will shower you with love unconditionally and will always be there for you, no matter what. Through the petty arguments and heated exchanges, the wonderful make up and the passionate aftermath - he will always be there...always.
Is Rob Pattinson that type of person?
You only have to look at this picture to find the answer...
T.
So...
How do you know the man you are with, is in love with you?
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| Adoration and love... |
How do you know that he loves you? Well it's fairly simple. Men can be pretty fickle when they are tied down by emotions. Many can be very good at acting like they are in love, when really, they're only after one thing. They have good poker faces and will often tell you things you want to hear, because they know women are the emotional being and will often fall for the sweet words and kind gestures, as well as being attentive, when the only goal is to get you into bed.
BUT; more often than not, there are men out there, who are the complete opposite. Their grandiose displays of affection, are actually genuine and heartfelt.
Rob has often since he began filming Twilight back in 2008; shown in both spoken and body language, that he has a genuine emotional attachment to Kristen. He does not display 'he-man status' (a commonly used label to describe a man that has to prove he is 'in control' both with or without friends around him). He doesn't try and push false emotions on you to get what he wants, instead (like Rob) he is very tentative, more than likely very shy and insecure himself. Therefore, will less likely use your emotional status as woman to get what he wants. From the very beginning; Rob has made it known of his attraction (crush) of Kristen. He spoke about it more often than was deemed reasonable, during all the press and promotion of Twilight. He praised Kristen continuously and when cameras where not on them, showed kind and gentle gestures around Kristen (complete attention and enthusiasm) in hearing anything she had to say. Was around her for emotional support and built up a connection, a friendship with Kristen, that could only be described as their little 'bubble'
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| Laughing and loving friendship... |
When Kristen came onto the scene, when she made her first introduction to him (Catherine Hardwicke's decking at the back of her home, as read in her directors handbook) after he had recently watched the movie 'Into the Wild' where upon her character, was a very shy but free spirit - Rob was done. Done as in essence; she became the main focus for him winning the audition. She became the main focus while he shot the movie. She was the main focus when he spoke about the movie; the characters development and how he falls in love. And she remained the main focus when he spoke about the months leading after he shot the movie and how he still felt being in that bubble of 'this girl, this girl, this girl, is the only thing you need in your life, the only thing you need in your life, the only thing you need in your life.'
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| I have eyes only for you Kristen... |
Those that like to criticise her, use this against her, because they don't have the patience to actually get to know her. But Rob did, he found her fascinating; breathtakingly beautiful. Admired her for her strong acting ability and charisma, that is always so humble and gentle. It was mentioned by members of the Twilight cast, how 'Rob followed Kristen around like a little puppy and how he asked on more than one occasion, for Kristen to marry him.'
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| Will you do me the honour of becoming my wife? |
So he always liked the idea of meeting a woman who he wanted to settle down with. Someone with a feisty independent spirit, who knows what she wants out of life and isn't afraid to go after it. Intellectually minded and of course, someone who can just relax, be herself *Madame interview 2011* - no barbie starlets of high maintenance.
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| Dangerously sexy... |
Catherine Hardwicke has always been a firm advocate for the romance between her two co stars - giving it her unique stamp of approval and is rewarded with various people always asking about their 'sizzling chemistry.' Commitment means, they want to be with each other always; Holidays, set visits, birthdays and seasonal occasions - Rob and Kristen have sought privacy, by maintaining their relationship off camera. Away from photographers, away from stalking fans and away from the glaring media intrusion.
For them, their relationship is theirs and no one else's. They don't offer it up to the media to scrutinise, take apart, break apart, suggest and analyse. Instead, they have tried to keep it out of the spotlight, refusing to talk about it, sell it to anyone willing to pay for it. The time they spend together because of their busy working lives (in between working for the Twilight Saga) is very precious to them. They use that time to refrain from being spotted, because with the use of twitter and facebook - when found, they have mere seconds before they get bombarded by fans or photogs - interrupting their precious time. They have been devious enough to go out to places that are less conspicuous or private enough, that no one can just walk in from the street and harass them. Sometimes they work with a large crowd (friends dining out) that means, there is less chance of them being interrupted when they are having a meal. The same goes for holidays and birthdays; the less known place the go to, the less they will be bothered when they want some time alone.
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| Happiest just being together... |
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| Always smiling, always together... |
They are actors, they know this is part of what they do and they understand that there will be times when they won't be together. If there ever came a time when their professional life started encroaching on their private life, i believe one or other would rather walk away from their job (mainly Rob seems to imply this) or at the very least, refrain from all work and no play, than allow it to ruin their relationship.
In essence; despite the rumours, suggestions, blatant lies and false accusations - Rob is in love with Kristen and Kristen is in love with Rob. It doesn't matter how much or how little time they have been seen together, it's the fact they have been together, that's more important. If you are going to criticise a few days visiting one and other, as opposed to no days at all as a way of 'citing your belief they don't love each other or are not a couple' then your perception of the world is a very dark and dangerous place to be.
Or maybe it's the hate that keeps you lonely; projecting your hate onto a couple that have for over 2 years, made i work. Despite the crazy world they work in. Or maybe it's your obsession of another couple's relationship, that has stopped you finding one of your own, or ruined the one you had? Because you would rather objectify a male actor in something bordering on psychotic obsession, than find love yourself with a person, who would make you as happy as Kristen Stewart is.
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| Together, happy, in love... |
Live, Laugh, Love.
Rob Pattinson and Kristen Stewart, know how to do all three. So in answer to my question at the beginning of the post; 'How do you know that the man you are with, is in love with you?'
Simple; he is the type of person who would hang the moon and stars. Will talk to you any time, any moment and any day you choose. Will shower you with love unconditionally and will always be there for you, no matter what. Through the petty arguments and heated exchanges, the wonderful make up and the passionate aftermath - he will always be there...always.
Is Rob Pattinson that type of person?
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| The look of love... |
T.
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