Rob and Kristen; He moves, she moves...

I have always loved this photograph...

So...
As the weekend approaches again....i find myself once more delving through the drudgery that is the constant see-saw effect of this fandom - this sometimes personal hell that is called being a Rob and Kristen supporter.

Yeah i know - dramatic much! But it seems the only time people are truly happy is when there is drama running around; especially when i get messages of 'Why are you hating on the Kristen haters - why not the Rob haters as well?' followed closely behind 'I see you're hitting back at the Rob haters, but there are far worse Kristen haters out there - you don't seem to be very fair?'

Drama...all the time!

You bring me closer...

It doesn't matter how many times i say this, or how many times i get messages of 'being unfair to one particular hate group or the other' those not willing to think with a logical brain will never get it. I am neither a Rob Pattinson fan or a Kristen Stewart fan...I am both!

Lets just say for arguments sake, that i knew about Rob Pattinson long before i knew anything about Kristen Stewart; seeing as i was a fan of the Harry Potter movies, mainly due to having children, who absolutely loved the books. So of course i would have seen him in the fourth movie. Kristen i saw much later in a Disney-esque movie called 'Zathura' and then in a fantastic movie called 'Panic Room' (the latter done before Zathura) and loved her strong acting presence, because she completely blew me away due to her performance. I know there are literally hundreds of sites out there all dedicated to Robert; some fantastic informative places and some...a little scary, if i have to be honest with you. Either way, i have my favourites and because they are both respectful and informative, I tend to visit those places more.

Unfortunately - there are very few decent Kristen sites out there - apart from really good news blogs, that hold any interest for me. Hate sites tend to lock themselves away; Live Journals upon registration only. Basically, there are more hate sites dedicated to Kristen Stewart than there are of Robert Pattinson (why does that surprise me?) SO...i tend to go after the Kristen haters more than the Rob haters. After all, the only people who hate on Rob is because he's dating Kristen Stewart and for that, they hate on her anyway. So if they can't get attention from him and they dislike the attention he is giving her (shrugs) they hate on him also. That way people will quickly jump to his defence and the rest they say...is history.

Get used to it. In becoming part of this fandom; sometimes the mood swings can literally give you whiplash!

The happiness in their eyes is contagious...

I get the whole 'don't give them attention, why worry about what they say?' 

My answer as always is very simple; because they shouldn't get away with their heinous hate on one person (either side). You read the whole 'i don't care what he/she does with their lives, i don't care who he/she is dating...' IF they didn't care, then why go from blog to blog, message board to message board posting hate?

The way i see it; the only reason there is so much drama concerning two people that for all intents and purposes, are going through their lives as best as they can under the most unusual of circumstances. Is because some people believe they have the right to announce to the world their displeasure, because Rob is seen as not available. Despite the constant need to attach labels to his name; fame-whore, man-whore - hoping he will live up to their expectations and actually do it. With Kristen; she is loathed beyond the realm of hate. Despised because she had the audacity to wrap herself around a person they adulate and fantasize about, instead of finding herself someone less worthy of their attention and leave their 'Robert' their 'Edward' alone.

Kristen - underneath his skin...

If their relationship was so unimportant, then why talk about it behind locked forums and blogs? Why put yourselves through all this misery and then simply deny it's doing anything to your life? Seems to me, those that constantly deny there is anything going on between the two actors, live in perpetual denial of the fact. The only reason they can come up with anything is by labelling it as a 'fake relationship' they're only doing this for their image. To keep their names in the public eye. To make sure they get hits and climb up the star-meter on the IMDB.

Yeah...right!

The last thing either want in their lives is more attention drawn on them. They live in constant anxiety in case they get snapped by the ever annoying Paps, who seem to run around like rats; scurrying and clambering over and through anything to get that 'money shot.' 

I agree; there are haters on both sides who feel the need to over-dramatise life's little pleasures, by constantly crying on and on about how this doesn't affect their lives. That they don't give a hoot about what a certain British actor and a certain American actress do with their lives. YET they're the first to cry and whine when Rob and Kristen ARE seen together. To then clap and laugh and point and yell (in their posts in CAPS) when they're not seen together. 'Oh there's trouble in paradise, Kristen hasn't been seen in ..... she's not really a very good girlfriend to Rob is she?'

Captivated...

When Kristen is not seen with Rob; there's something wrong with their relationship. When Rob is seen out with 'friends' or attending some dinner or function; he's not being a very good boyfriend who should be sitting at home pinning away for the phone to ring. Or, he's much happier when she is not around. Look how he glows and laughs...they move from one emotion to the other, because they waste too much time looking for the negative in everything. They have no idea how to have a successful relationship of their own, so they project their insecurities and their anxieties through Rob and Kristen's eyes. Deciding that their lives 'have to be as uptight and as miserable as theirs!'

BUT...there are other people/fans, who see the 'real' picture. Understand, appreciate and accept what they can see with their own eyes. They see the love, they see the honesty and they see the respect between Rob and Kristen. How their lives; despite the career choices and sometimes bouts of separation, is theirs to take care of and look after...and no one else. 

Rob moves, Kristen moves that's how it is. No matter what he's doing or where he is; this young woman will always be first and foremost on his mind. Observing two people, with an affection for each other that is so contagious. How those who come across their paths, can't say enough good things about them. How Kristen looks so lovingly at Rob, how Rob is always aware of where Kristen is at all times. His attention to her whenever she is beside him, how he doesn't look at anyone the way he looks at Kristen - with deep, respectful love. How Kristen is always fully aware of Rob and instinctively knows what he's going to say next, even when his verbal filter is switched off. 

So it's plain to see that the two sides of the fandom; those that hate and those that love, see two different things. One side can see the obvious truth; see the love, the respect and the deep commitment, because lets face it, When Robert Pattinson looks at Kristen Stewart - fan hearts melt all around the world. The important times they spend together, with or without being seen. Holidaying, set visits, flying across land and sea just to be one another. Kissing, hugging, hand-holding, sharing a dog - there has been no other woman in Rob's life since he signed on board for a teen movie called Twilight.

So why is it so difficult for the other side of the fandom to accept this?

This girl...is the only one you need in your life...

Kristen is not perfect; she has never denied this about herself. She's hard working, bluntly honest, compassionate, caring and knows a version of Rob that no fan or anyone else for that matter, will ever know. She doesn't claim to be what some people think she, and knows who her haters are. Despite all of this, despite the horrid things written about her on blogs and sites - none of this matters. Sure, it most likely annoys the hell out of her, but think about this for one second...

'Do onto others that you would want done onto you'

No, I'm not going all philosophical or biblical on you. I'm merely suggesting something to think about. As women; we pride ourselves in being highly emotional and deeply compassionate people - yet we are quick to judge, to be disrespectful and hurtful to our fellow women. To attack without provocation, to hurt without clearly thinking, is something we unfortunately are at fault time and time again. A group of jealous women seem to find Kristen a daily source of hate and for what exactly?

Because she's with someone they want? Around and around it goes...

He moves...she moves...

The way i see it; a man in love, is a wonderful thing to witness. A woman in love, is something precious to have. To be in love, is the combination of two peoples emotions and connections, that come together out of mutual respect and desire to make the other one happy. Kristen makes Rob happy, Rob makes Kristen happy and to accept that this is the case, allows you to understand that no matter who you direct your hate at; whether it be Rob or it be Kristen...it doesn't matter to either of them.

I joined this fandom out of mutual respect for both, yet i see others around me who don't want to understand that. They'd rather make excuses as to why they're together, instead of accepting that this is the 'real' deal. Does it really matter where Kristen is? Does it really matter what Rob is doing right now? Will it stop you sleeping at night? 

Too many want to know all the answers and if they hear or read something they disagree with, then all hell breaks loose. Surely just accepting that no matter what is written, gossiped about or reported concerning the two young actors, you're opinion won't change the future or the outcome.

Together...as always...

Respect both people; as fans you should be happy they've found one and other in a pretty selfish, shallow world. Understand and accept that Robert Pattinson belongs to no one but himself, and his life is his own to make mistakes and learn from them - no matter what they are. Oh and Kristen...is not one of his mistakes. 

Accept Kristen for the loving, honest person she is. No one understands how a woman feels better than she does. Do you seriously believe she doesn't know that countless women see him as 'the greatest thing in the world?' With the exception that she knows the real person underneath that façade - knows the real truth. 

If you can understand and accept that, then this fandom is a wonderful place to be. Filled with fans who enjoy the moments they get to share; the public appearances, when they can see just how happy they are and not just putting on a show for the cameras, but deep bone loving happiness.

Take care
T.